Last Monday I received an interesting question
from a reader.
He read my last few messages about flirting and
wanted to know WHEN he should flirt?
Specifically if he should be flirting while
talking over the phone?
My response was simple.
I told him he should ALWAYS be flirting –
ESPECIALLY while calling a woman.
So let’s talk about what to ACTUALLY say while
talking on the phone.
A girl’s opinion is largely based on the feelings
she experiences during your first phone
conversation.
Most guys fail in this area because they simply
“wing it”
Instead I recommend forming a plan of action that
gives you an opportunity to FLIRT like crazy while
talking on
the phone.
Whenever calling a girl there were a NUMBER of
things you should do.
.
For instance, you should do the following during
EVERY phone conversation
1) Have a “call back humor” joke:
Before you get a number, it’s important to have
some sort of connection or private joke.
It could be a nickname you give her.
Or if you met her online, you could refer to
something about her profile that you busted her
on.
The point is using call back humor will
immediately establish that connection you formed
when you first got her number.
It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, just a
something that points out the connection the two
of you have.
2) Have a few questions about her
It’s important to establish a connection with
any conversation you have with a woman.
Before calling her, jot down a few questions that
you GENUINELY want to know about her.
Ask about her:
* Hobbies and life outside work
* Dreams and aspirations
* Favorite places to travel
* Music, movies, and books she likes
Now you’ll find that many so-called “seduction
gurus” tell you to ignore any rapport seeking
questions before you know she’s into you.
And they’ll also probably recommend never asking
anything that makes you seem like you’re trying
to seek her approval.
But I honestly believe that it’s necessary to
ask questions like this.
Honestly, it’s important for creating
attraction.
However it’s EQUALLY important to make her feel
that sense of connection where you truly *get*
her.
So I recommend you ask questions about her.
But you also want to challenge her at the same
time.
Ask her WHY she likes the things she does.
Tease her a little.
Create some banter between the two of you.
3) Have stories to tell
Stories should be the backbone of ANY
attraction building conversation.
Frankly one of the BIGGEST mistake I’ve made
in the past was having nothing to talk about.
Before picking up the phone, you should jot
down a few notes about some of the interesting
things you’ve done during the week.
Also if you have a story from your past that
you know women love, NOW is the time you
should tell it!
Any story you tell should put you in the best
possible light.
It should subtly demonstrate that you’re a fun,
high status guy who has a lot going on in your
life.
And if this isn’t the truth, then it’s time to
get out there and do something!
4) Have a *date* idea
NEVER, EVER pick up the phone without having a
few fun activities planned.
It can be something you’re doing with your
friends.
Or it can be something as simple as a trip to
the mall.
The point is you want a SPECIFIC activity that
you’re doing during the week.
And then as the conversation comes to the
conclusion, you should invite her to come join
you.
Typically this is known as a *date*.
However I’m a firm believer in not using that
word OR making it sound like a big deal.
Let her know that you want to see her again.
But you’re also NOTstructuring your entire
life around seeing her.
If she agrees, she agrees.
If she doesn’t…Oh well.
Next!
Bottom line is a phone call should be a fun
experience.
Use it to establish a connection, create
attraction, and showcase your flirty, UNIQUE
personality.
Don’t make the mistake of being boring.
Instead be a exciting, engaging guy that
she’ll want to IMMEDIATELY see in person.
If you don’t know how to do it, then here’s where
to learn how to do this:
