Skipping Stages

Is it possible to skip stages? Absolutely. Look at the following examples.

A man walks right up to a girl who’s just noticed him, pulls her into him, says something seductive, and plants a small kiss on her lips, which she enjoys. He then pulls away, but she leans in to try and kiss him again. Where’s the girl? She’s moved instantly from being indifferent to kissing him to needing to kiss him again.

Or, a weird guy could walk up to the same girl and awkwardly try to plant one on her; she’ll recoil and go straight to Rejection.

It’s also possible for a woman to start out in the Curiosity stage (if, say, she spots a guy she really likes the look of and is exactly her type) or the Rejection stage (for instance, if she gets approached by a weird, creepy guy who makes her skin crawl). How often a woman starts out in a stage other than Indifference is directly linked to how judgmental/opinionated she is; the more she judges others, the more likely she is either to want or not want someone immediately before knowing much, if anything, about him.

Moving Backwards

It’s easiest to move backwards from a transitional stage. It’s much more difficult to move backwards from a set stage.

If she’s curious about you, but you fall off the map for a long period of time, it’s easy for her Curiosity to reset to Indifference.

If she’s in Satiation, then you take away whatever you were satiating her with and start rationing it out again, she’ll fall right back into Need (although she’ll probably be pretty pissed about it).

If she’s in Burden, and you pull back and aren’t quite so overbearing anymore, she’ll move back to Expectation.

Moving back from a set stage is not as easy as just giving a woman less of whatever it is that she desires from you. If she’s in the habit of expecting orgasms from you every time you sleep with her, and you start only giving her orgasms every other time, she’ll resent you for it. Or if she’s in the habit of you kissing her passionately every time you see her, and suddenly you stop, she’ll resent you for that too. She’ll start pulling away rather than moving backward in the Stages of Desire.

Just like with attraction in general, where trying to go backward is never a good idea, so it is with the Stages of Desire. Once you’ve reached a set stage, you’ve reached it; you’re probably not going to be able to go back.

Use the Stages of Desire as a gauge to figure out where you are with a woman, and where you need to get to. If she’s still in Curiosity, get her a taste quickly to move her into a more stable stage (Need). If she’s in Burden, ease up a bit before she goes into Rejection and let her move back down to Expectation.

Note that you can move through the Stages as quickly or as slowly as you like; a man might rattle through all six in an hour with a girl and have her tired of his conversation and wanting to end it – or he might keep her chasing after him, perpetually in the Need stage, for years at a time. So get ready to buck your life with this! http://secret.buckmylife.com

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