These are 25 things you should never do when talking to women. It will show that you are trying too hard:

1)Fidgety movements, tight shoulders, taking yourself too seriously

2)Being too businesslike or ‘sophiscated’

3)Laughing at your own jokes

4)Saying ‘right’ or ‘you know’ after statements

5)Standing with legs not half a meter apart

6)Talking too softly or loud

7)Moving your hands around while you talk

8)Leaning in or ‘pecking’

9)Facing bodyfeet towards her before she earned it

10)Chasing when she walks away

11)Not withdrawaing when she does something you would not tolerate from a guy

12)Answering questions too quickly or early

13)Turning your head when addressed

14)Going back to prior thread that was interrupted at the first chance you get

15)To appearing more into your wingman than chick if this applies

16)Too eager to pay attention. Saying ‘What?’ if you cant hear her prior to being in rapport

17)Replying with overly thought out logical answers or overly clear/formal pronunciation

18)Taking too many sentences to state an idea that could be stated in less space

19)Being bold instead of confident

20)Overcompensating for insecurities

21)Overcompensating for failure or shortcomings

22)Going backwards in the pickup on her schedule

23)Waiting for her if she leaves for any reason

24)Overly remembering details about past conversations

25)Offering too much about yourself early

Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that “no one will ever love her as much as I do.” Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: “You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I’m here.”

The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue… But love isn’t mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: “Who would want to go out with someone who was inherintly unlovable anyways?”

More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy needs her. “She is my Life, my only source of happiness…”!! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That she has to be responsible for your happiness? Get a grip!

Another mistake Nice Guys make is to go after “hard luck” cases. They deliberately pick women with neuroses, problems, and personality disorders, because Nice Guys are “helpers”. A Nice Guy thinks that by “helping” this woman, it will make him a better, more lovable person. He thinks it will give him a sense of accomplishment, and that she will appreciate and love him more, for all his efforts and sacrifice. He is usually disappointed by the results.

This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don’t like themselves. Is it any wonder women don’t like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for “love”.

You don’t have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk though it does no harm to be like that. The buck my life team is full of such jerks but that is a story for another day. You just have to like yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to any kind of women. Buck your life!

You hear it all the time: “He was such a nice Guy, and she’s such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him.” If you have one bad relationship or one bad sarge after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

What’s wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

Nice Guys exude insecurity — a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are “users” — just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on “Nice Guys”, stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It’s no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life…

Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find “Nice Guys” to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure. Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a “lets get together for coffee” date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be “friends”, in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a “date”.

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be — not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them.

They cling to her, and want to be “one” with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the real person inside, she will no longer love him. Come on, you need to be devoid of emotion to buck your life!

Nice Guys are always asking her to make the decisions. They think it’s being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.

Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of compromising and negotiating, they repeatedly “give in”. When she doesn’t appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, “Everything I did, I did for her.”, as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn’t want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner. Keep all this in mind as you do anything to buck you life. Next edition coming up soon…

If you’re having problems getting attraction, it’s usually because of something you’re doing wrong earlier in the interaction. There are a few things you might be doing wrong:

1) Being too “gamey.” MORE IS NOT BETTER when you’re using attraction routines. Too many can get weird pretty quickly. Attraction routines are great for when you get stuck – when you don’t know what to say next. But what really generates attraction is when you demonstrate confidence, humor, etc., and of course great body language. If you’re not demonstrating these things, you’re not generating attraction, attraction routine or not.

You want to engage the people in her group, make them laugh, generate a bit of attraction and then CHILL. That is to say, once you HAVE attraction, you need to move forward to the next step. If you keep trying for more attraction you will blow it.

2) Being weak on the opener/conversation starter. If your opener is weak, you’ll usually see the effects about a minute or two in. Opening poorly can make it very hard to get attraction. If your first line sounds nervous, awkward, too eager, or like you’re reading a script, or if she’s seen you wandering around the last 15 minutes getting the courage to approach her… well, you risk getting the kind of reaction you described a couple of minutes later when you try to continue the conversation.

Practice your openers, practice making them spontaneous, invent your own openers, and above all else, HAVE FUN when you’re out, and make that energy infectious.

3) Giving up too early. Some women will giggle and be all over you when they’re attracted – many will not. Some women are bad conversationalists, some are shy, and some have bad “game” themselves and mess things up when they are attracted. Indicators of attraction are guidelines, not a straightjacket.

Don’t be too strict in worrying about the lack of indicators of attraction – if they’re not coming but you’re having a good conversation, keep moving forward and see what happens. Don’t bail just because a woman isn’t giving you strong “I like you” signals.

There’s another thing to think about too – the overall “vibe” of the room. A lot of the time, the women I approach early in the night are friendly enough, but chemistry doesn’t come easily. You can do really well for yourself by bailing from those approaches after a couple of minutes – on a high note – and re-opening at midnight when the girls have had a chance to relax, be social, and see you having a great time around the bar. Suddenly, there’s chemistry. Buck your life!

You’re at the local club, and there is a band or DJ spinning tunes, with lots of hips swinging and toes tapping. You see a delicious brunette who’s
obviously getting into the groove.
 
Goals:
Anything from a phone number all the way to seduction.
 
Opportunities:
This environment is one of the best for seduction, if you’re not too intimidated by the surroundings. Dancing is one of the most seductive things to do with a woman, and if you strike it off with her, the physical attraction and lust can be driven up through the stratosphere with her. Why do you think so many religions frown on dancing? Dancing is considered one of the sensualities that will keep you out of Heaven. It’s erotic. Forbidden. And a great way to break down the initial barriers
and get familiar with a woman.
 
Dangers:
Some of the more popular dance clubs tend to be loud and very rowdy, making it exceptionally difficult to interact with a woman closely enough
to really seduce her. You may find that you need to get her away from this club, or in a more secluded portion of it to work some of your attraction techniques on her. Eventually, you will have to get her away from her friends if you hope to complete the seduction, since she will most
likely have come to the club with friends.
 
Some cautions for you on this: Don’t go overboard with your dancing. Keep your hands off her until she’s made it clear that she’s good with you
moving in and touching her. Keep your hands off any sexual parts of her body, such as her butt, her crotch, her breasts, until she either pulls
your hands there, or she’s dry-humping your leg.

Most guys go too far in the dance clubs, thinking that they can push the envelope with a woman. This is still a public environment, and her inhibitions are not going to be lowered enough to let you sneak your hand down her pants – or up her skirt. You should only take things to the level of making out in the club. If you want this action to move to one of your homes, you have to give her a reason to want more than she can get where you are.
 
Approach:
A dance club is one of the easiest places to pick up women because you’re already given most of the tools you need to approach a woman. You don’t have to use any clever introductions except one: “Hey… let’s dance!”
 
A lot of guys use the old line, “What do you think of the band?” which still works. Better, though, to be creative and be provocative with your
introduction. Try this one on instead: “Hi, I saw you getting into the music. If you want to become an official groupie, you can sign up with me.” And
she’ll probably ask you, “Are you with the band?”

You tell her, “No, but they keep bugging me to hang out with them. It’s embarrassing, really. I think they’re stalking me.”
 
Details:
You should look into dance classes in your local area. Even if you’re already a decent dancer to pop music, you should consider the benefits of
learning ballroom, swing, or salsa dancing. Having a sophisticated skill such as being a good dancer is one of the top turn-ons for a woman. You’ll be ahead of 90% of the guys out there if you can learn how to dance confidently and lead them effectively. Dancing oozes sensuality and sex, and there is no better way to seduce a woman than by going through the motions of sex to tease and stimulate her.

Some stories of my disciples bucking my life using this can be read at the life blog section. So long and have a great experience at the dance club!

Any beer pub where people are mostly mixing and drinking. You spot a yummy blonde chatting it up with a friend over a Guinness.
 
Goals:
Anything goes, from a phone number to possible seduction.
 
Opportunities:
Alcohol always loosens people up and lowers their inhibitions. Plus, it’s expected that people are here to meet other people and socialize. Women
tend to be much more open in this kind of environment. You’ll also get a lot less of their usual defensive behavior than if you were meeting
a woman cold on the street.
 
Dangers:
With the availability of alcohol comes responsibility: be very careful to not drink too much yourself. You’ll get sloppy with your
approach, and you’ll be prone to a lot of intoxication errors. Not to mention the risks you create if you don’t succeed with your seduction
and you have to get home.
 
Also, you need to remember that this is a classic “pick up” location, so women have their guard up. They know exactly why you’re there, and they know why they are there. They’ve perfected the “Oh, I’m just here to socialize – how dare you try to pick up on me!” routine, but it’s easy enough to get past. Never approach a woman as if you’re doing some kind of pick-up pattern. You sneak in under her radar by treating her as if you are only
interested in busting her balls and having a good time.
 
Approach:
Women are here to meet men and have fun with their friends. Pure and simple. Even if a woman doesn’t admit this on the outside, she knows that’s why she’s there on the inside. Especially the recently-dumped women who are looking for nothing more than a good time. (These are your prime
candidates for seduction, by the way. They have an easy to identify need, and they are not really looking for anything more than validation of their
bruised self-esteem.) As always, a woman never wants to feel like you are interested in her solely to have s.ex with her. You have to make her
feel good enough about you – and her – to go along with your seduction.
 
You can best pull this off by teasing her and busting her chops. You’ll want to memorize these approaches, as well as create some of your own to
use. The more you practice in this environment, the better you’ll get.
 
Use the teasing introduction from the “Off the Street” situation. It works beautifully here.
 
“Hi, I wanted to introduce myself to you and see what you think about guys who are confident enough to just walk up and introduce themselves.”
 
Use your wingman. This is a situation where having someone with you to help out can be enormously successful. Especially since the majority of women will be out in pairs, you want to have someone to keep her friend preoccupied while you move on your target. Here’s a classic approach that works very well:
 
You walk up to the woman you are least interested in. (You and your wingman will have to trade this duty back and forth to balance it out, or target two women that you both find interesting.) You tell her that your wingman friend is trying to break out of his shell – he’s very shy – and wants
to talk to her. (Since you’re the confident one.)
“Would you mind if he came over to talk for a minute?” If she stares around trying to get a look at him, you say, “Hey! Now don’t be superficial. I
can’t believe you only care about what he looks like. He’s a great guy and you need to meet him.”
 
Chances are 8 out of 10 that you’ll get her to agree, and if she doesn’t, turn to her friend (the one you’re interested in) and say, “C’mon, and help your friend here. What kind of friend are you that you’d let her miss out on an opportunity of a lifetime. You want me to go back and break his little heart?” If you play this up, you’re almost guaranteed to get the four of you together with almost no problems. Get their names, and go back
for your wingman.

Once you’ve introduced everyone, you start talking to the gal you’re interested in, while teasing her and having fun.
 
This approach works for groups of women of just about any size. All you have to do is walk over and take your pick. How much easier can it be?
 
I’m sure you’ve already heard this before, but please do not use any tired pickup lines. I’m sure you’ve heard some of these:
 
“Congratulations! You’ve been voted “Most Beautiful Girl In This Room” and the grand prize is a night with me!”
 
“Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?”
 
“Can I borrow your library card? I want to check you out.”
 
“Hey, I’m new in town. Can I get directions to your house?”
 
“I’m not good at these pick-up lines, so could I just play with your breasts?”
 
They’re all old, lame, and say exactly the same thing to her: “I don’t think you’re intelligent enough to appreciate me as I am, and since I have
no clue how to talk to you, I’m going to try and be witty while being insincere. Oh, and I’m also going to make it clear that I only think of you as
a sex object, not as a thinking, breathing woman. The only thing I find special and different about you is hiding inside your jeans.”
 
Guess how long it takes her to figure this out?
She has you pegged after the first three words. Just use something real about her to take notice of, be creative in recognizing it (while teasing
just a bit), and you’ll have no problems thinking of how to start a conversation.
 
Details:
Singles bars can often be like meat markets. The atmosphere is already built around drinking and socializing, and depending on the location, more
rowdy behavior. You have a lot of opportunity in this location, and despite the opinions of singles bars, they are an important opportunity to meet women.
 

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Now, on to the second half of the technique.
 
We’ve learned that the Tease to Please approach works because it short-circuits her usual defense mechanisms to meeting ‘strange’ men. You see,
every woman comes with her factory-installed defense mechanism against meeting new guys. When a guy approaches her, for any reason, she assumes you’re picking up on her. It’s what she’s gotten used to. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine of being a little stand-offish to you until you bust past this barrier. They act a little quiet and put out by the fact that here’s another guy trying to chat them up for a phone
number to get a date, to get some sex… They get a little insulated.
 
So now we’ll break on through to the other side.
 
Remember when you were just an eight-year-old kid on the playground? There were all these ‘strange’ creatures playing around the sandbox. They were called girls, and they seemed so bizarre and alien to you. They were delicate and soft, yet interesting in a way that you couldn’t quite
explain, and you knew that they were different.
 
How do kids treat those that are different? They tease them.
 
“Mary, Mary, she’s so hairy!”
“Where’d you get that backpack? Looks like a hunchback!”
“Jenny’s got a carrot top!”
 
Boys teased girls. Girls teased boys. Everyone made fun of everyone else. It was sandlot politics at its best, and you learned very quickly that you
had to develop a callus to the teasing, or you’d get bruised pretty badly. (Some kids never adjusted, and grew up with their sandbox issues haunting them for life.)
 
I’ll be willing to bet you that you teased more girls because you liked them than you did because of any genuine weirdness. Sure, there’s some
cruelty, but the first social interaction most boys have with girls is when they teased them mercilessly. And what happened? The girls stuck up
for themselves. They teased back. And they didn’t realize it at the time, but this set in motion a whole pattern of behavior that led to them being
very interested and attracted when they are challenged.
 
That’s right, boys. Teasing is all about raising the stakes of challenge to her, and letting her know that you don’t get all mushy inside when you
get near a girl. No confidence = no attraction from her.
 
Tease to Please is a simple strategy. By teasing, you emulate a lot of the self-confidence you need to demonstrate with a woman. That’s really the
secret in a nutshell. Call it what you want, you are simply showing her you have the balls to not roll over and pant like a whipped dog every time a
woman comes near you.
 
Here’s how it’s done:
You’ve just delivered your introduction. Now you are in a position to continue the conversation as you see fit. You’ve disarmed her natural defenses and opened up your opportunity to engage her attraction mechanism. You do this through teasing.
 
From the example we used in Part 1: She’s got bright red shoes on.
 
YOU: “Wow, those are … interesting shoes. My sister might like a pair like that. Where’d you get them…?”
 
HER: “Oh, these? Uhm, I got them at Macy’s. They’re really old. I was looking to get a new pair.”
 
YOU: “Well, my sister is pretty young, but she’d like that style. For an old lady … (pause) … you’re a pretty sharp dresser.” You give her a
slight smile that says “That was a joke.”
 
Remember, “sister” can be changed to aunt, or cousin, or whatever.
 
You can use that standard response I just gave you for now, but you’ll do better if you learn how to think on your feet and come up with more personal and customized versions. There are a whole ton of
teasing responses.
 
Here are some others you can use, delivered with that sly smile:
 
“Well, with heels that high, you better watch out for awnings. And low-flying planes.”
 
“How many feet have you crushed with those things? I’m wearing steel-toes, so don’t try it on me, lady.”
 
Let’s say you want to tease her about a ring she’s
wearing:
“Well, my sister likes those ‘groovy’ rings, too. Do you have a mood ring? I bet you were the kind of girl to wear one of those. Was it blue all the time? You look like you have cold hands.”
 
“My sister likes toe rings like that. Do you wear them on your toes, too? Just don’t tell me you have a weird piercing, like your butt-cheek. That
would just be too freaky.”
 
“Wow, that ring is huge. I bet you have to leave it off when you go swimming, huh? Otherwise you’d sink right to the bottom.”
 
It goes on and on. In fact, you could sit down and just think up a handful of these for a few different parts of clothing (shoes, purse, jacket)
and/or jewelry and be prepared for almost any encounter.
 
Once again: Don’t be insulting. Be teasing. Teasing is done with a tongue-in-cheek sense of humor. You kid with her. If you make fun of her in
a mean or malicious way, you’re out. If you don’t let her know you’re kidding, you’re out.
 
The point of this exercise is to:
A) Get her laughing
 B) Challenge her (by demonstrating Self-confidence
and that you’re different.)
 
After you joke with her a little, make a decision if this is a woman you might be interested in for your seduction. If so, you smile and start to walk
away. Then, turn right back and tell her (don’t ask):
 
“Hey, you know, we might like to continue this conversation sometime. Write down your number for me.”
 
(Memorize this phrasing to use exactly.)
 
If she says she doesn’t have a phone or email, tease her some more: “No email? You didn’t just get back from a UFO abduction did you?” Smile. “Here, just give me your home phone.” (As she starts writing):
“Uhm, your real number, please. I’m just going to call you as soon as I get home and leave a dozen annoying messages on your answering machine.”
Smile. Take her number and leave. Don’t tell her you’ll call her. Leave her wondering.
 
That’s it. You disarm her defenses by keeping a sense of humor. You show self-confidence and challenge her by teasing a little. Then you ask
for what you want, and then you leave. You’re a busy guy, with too many women to meet to waste any time here.
 
Details:
That should give you more than enough detail on how to work this approach for any cold contact. Be simple and direct, and most importantly, be confident with your words and manner. This technique is used in almost every one of these approaches.

So get ready to buck your life!

You spot a woman on the street that you’d like to meet.
 
Goals:
Get her phone number and/or email. A progression to complete seduction is very unlikely but it can be done with the right connection (More on that in our secret book and posts at http://secret.buckmylife.com) . However, you can try to bridge the opportunity to meet her later that evening of the same day. This way you don’t have to worry about her forgetting, and you
get to build on the intrigue of the first meeting right away.
 
Opportunities:
Women are all around you. Half the people you meet (unless you work in a men’s prison or live with monks in a retreat) are women. You just have to start being more active about targeting and approaching them.
 
Dangers:
This situation is about as cold a contact as you can come up with. You don’t know her; she doesn’t know you. You have to establish trust quickly and move to getting her into an open attitude. Of course, you are also subject to more rejection, but that is part of the game.
 
Approach:
This approach will help you immensely in any “cold contact” situation. It’s called “Tease Her to Please Her”.
 
We’ve all heard about being “cocky and funny,” or “confident and funny,” or variations thereof. This technique uses a self-confident posture, along
with humor, to disarm a woman’s natural defenses so you can meet more women. If you meet more women, you get more experience, you get more
confidence, you get laid more, and more options open up to you. If you date only a few women, you tend to cling on to each as if she was your saving grace.
 
This is a method of understanding how to meet women any time and any place. All you need to do is open your eyes and set aside about 4 minutes
(or less) to talk to her, (if that long). This approach will work anywhere you see a woman, and it doesn’t require you to memorize a bunch of
secret handshakes or hypnotic trance words.
 
Tease to Please works because it short-circuits her usual defense mechanisms to meeting ‘strange’ men. You see, every woman comes with her factory-installed defense mechanism against meeting new guys. When a guy approaches her, for any reason, she assumes you’re picking up on her. It’s what she’s gotten used to. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine of being a little stand-offish to you until you bust past
this barrier.
 
You have 3 seconds from spotting a woman to when you approach her and say something to engage her interest. If you wait longer, your opportunity
window closes very fast.
 
In that 3 seconds, you do this:
 Look her over, and spot something about her appearance that you can comment on. Start with her shoes, and work your way up. Do not choose a
physical body trait (like big earlobes, bubble-butt, giant breasts) to comment on. Especially not her overall attractiveness. You find one thing that you can key off of and say something about that will give you an inroad. This is your Anchor. Once you’ve found it, you comment on it to her and smile at her, making strong eye contact.
 
Example: She’s got bright red shoes on – “Wow, those are … interesting shoes. My sister might like a pair like that. Where’d you get them…?”
 
Example: She’s got a black denim dress on – “My sister likes dresses like that. Where’d you get it…?”
 
(If you don’t have a sister, use ‘Aunt’ or ‘Cousin.’ You shouldn’t have to lie.)
 
She’ll say something like, “Oh, I got it at Macy’s” or something along those lines. You then nod your head and look at it for a second, as if you can’t make up your mind about whether you like it or not. At no time do you ever throw out the usual nauseating male flattery approaches, like
“Oh, that dress goes so perfectly with your cheekbones.” (There is a time and a place for flattery, and it’s not in an improvised meeting like this.)
 
Flattery is the scream for approval of the desperate guy. It’s like cotton candy – sweet for a split second, but disappears almost immediately.
You want to dangle the promise in front of her first.
 
You almost convey a look of inconvenience that you went out of your way to comment on her alligator-skin shoes, or her denim skirt. The less
she thinks you approached her out of sexual interest, the lower her guard is. (And the better off you are.)
 
Be careful here: Don’t be insulting! Just be mysterious and ambiguous.
 
Her next mental question is: “Gee, I wonder if he likes my dress…? He didn’t say…”From here, you will bridge into the Tease portion of the
conversation, and we’ll cover that in the next section. All there really is left to do is to keep her engaged in the conversation for just a minute
or two, show some confidence, and walk away with her phone number.
 
Now, the typical question I get is “What if there’s nothing out of the ordinary about her?”
 
Simple – You make something up. There is always something you can find when you look, and if it’s not readily apparent, you make it up. If she’s got
clothes on (and even here in San Francisco, they still wear clothes) you can find something to pick out. I recommend looking for jewelry, because
every woman takes a lot of thought in selecting her jewelry.
 
For especially attractive women, you need to come on a bit differently, and it pays to use a combination of the negative-hit with this. I even
recommend that when you get used to this technique, you use it exclusively on the hotties. When you’re comfortable with it, it makes more
impact.
 
You say just one thing, and it’s so easy you’ll have a tough time forgetting it:
“Your dress/shoes/blouse/jacket/purse (whatever) caught my eye. I like the style, but I think you should try it in black, instead. You’d look better
with it in black instead of gray.” (Choose the color accordingly.) You nod your head, again meeting her eyes full-on.
 
Her head will suddenly spin. She’ll think (or say): “But … but … all the other guys said I look like a fashion model with this on… what do you mean??”
 
By using these approaches, you’ve just flipped her trust switch in her head. You see, she starts out needing to find a reason to be interested and
trust you – or she quickly categorizes you as a friend (FRIEND = non-lover, a woman you won’t be able to sleep with). If you just start talking to
her neutrally, without sexually exciting her, she’s wondering, “Is he safe?” For all she knows, you’re a nut-case looking to pull her into a multi-level marketing scheme. Now, all of a sudden, she is suddenly told (by your words and actions) that you might not be so interested. You’re different – i.e., interesting to her.
 
For the first week or so, if you’re feeling a bit nervous about approaching women, work your way into this slowly. Just use the intro line I gave
you, and take it wherever you need. Hell, I’d even recommend you only ask her the first part (“Where’d you get that ring, my sister might like
one like that …”), then say “thanks” and walk away. Get used to just chatting up anyone and everyone you meet. Take the pressure off for the
first week or two, until you get used to the fact that women aren’t going to reject you like you think they will.
 
You don’t need anything fancy or clever. You don’t need anything special to comment on. You just take whatever she is wearing or holding and comment on it as if it were different or interesting. Then, by virtue of following it up with a quick tease, you get her mind off her initial worries (Is he safe?) and defensive behavior and on to validating herself a little to you. This is the primary psychological underpinning of the whole “Tease to
Please” or acting cocky and funny method.
 
What most guys will do is to spend all their energy trying to climb over her initial trust hurdle, when they really need to focus on getting her to flip that switch in her head by making her the one to present herself to you.
 
Just remember to keep things light and humorous, and never to insult.
In that way, you are going to buck your life for sure!

Part 2 to come at ………………………….

You’re at your local Starbucks or coffee house, either waiting in line with the rest of the drones to order and pay, or adding your sugar and
treatments to it. And there you spot a HB (hot babe).
 
Goals:
Again, a phone number and/or email. Unless this is a first meeting from another contact, you are probably only going to be able to seek the ability
to follow up and see her again.
 
Opportunities:
There are so many people who get their coffee in the morning, late-morning, noon, early afternoon, late afternoon, early evening … you’ll never have a shortage of women to approach.
 
Dangers:
People can be very serious about their java fix. You need to watch out for the moody ones in the morning. Beware smiling or being too joyful as you
might risk seeming annoyingly happy – and unrealistic. You’ll seem fake.
 
You may also be intimidated by the crowd of people in line. But rest assured that you don’t have to even ask her for her number in the store. You can always follow her outside and finish your close there, away from prying eyes.
 
Approach:
The first approach requires you to be in line somewhere near her. Listen to her order, if she’s in front of you. If it’s interesting, consider ordering the same thing, and then telling her, “You know, what you ordered sounded so good, I had to try it out. But if it sucks, I’m going to ask for a refund from you. Cool? Okay, then.” Just beware making it sound like you were a copycat for any other reason than you needed to try something different. Not because you were trying to impress her.
 
If she’s behind you in line, make it a point to let a few people get in front of you as you “try to decide what you want.” When she gets right behind you, you say, “Okay, I need to know what they’ve got here that’s good. Do you have any idea? If you give me a good hint, I’ll let you get in front of me, too. Just none of those weird teas, okay?”
 
Details:
Almost anything goes in this situation. Again, your dress code should be as casual as work allows, but everyone expects everyone else to be
dressed for work. It helps to frequent the same coffee places for a while so you can get a sense of who shows up at what times. Alternate locations
so that you cannot appear too familiar to any of the women, and in case you do pick up on one, you don’t have to worry about other women recognizing you as “that guy who picks up women at the coffee
shop.” You might also want to bring a friend as a wingman in this situation. So long guys, get ready to buck your life with this!

You’re at any grocery store, and you see a petite gal feeling up the chicken breasts in the frozen foods.
 
Goals:
Phone number and/or email. (Your chances of getting laid from a trip to the Safeway are pretty slim so lower your expectations accordingly.)
 
Opportunities:
Women put some thought into their grocery shopping, so you have many opportunities to engage in conversation about something they’re looking
at. They really ponder their choices. And, you can take as long as you want to shop and flirt because there are new people coming and going every
minute. Take a little while to do a little product research while you’re there.
 
Dangers:
You should be shopping with at least a basket or cart. If you’ve only come in to grab a bottle of wine and leave, you may have to be more forward, because you won’t look as natural. Another danger is that not many people are taking a relaxed and luxurious trip to the grocery. They usually want to shop their list, get rung up, and leave. You have to find a way into her attention zone.
 
Approach:
There are many ways you can get yourself introduced. One of the best ways is also one of the slyest, and I’ll bet most people have never even thought of it: Put something you’re buying into her cart. Then just stand there and point out
your error when you want to talk.
 
“Oh, wow, I’m just so overwhelmed with the choices for split-pea soup that I just helped you buy some, too. You don’t have to thank me. I do this for all the shoppers.”
 
Or, “Whoops. I was about to put something healthy in your basket by mistake, but it looks like you might need it for real. Are you really going to eat that stuff? Come with me, girl. We’re going to the fresh food section.”
 
Another approach is to run into her with your cart. Hey, I never said you had to be sophisticated. You just accidentally have a head-on collision with her cart. The trick of this maneuver is that you make it appear as if it were her fault.
 
“Whoah! Ma’am, I’m going to have to ask to see your license and proof of insurance. I think I’ve got whiplash.”
 
Or, “Hey, are you the one that always runs into my car in the parking lot, too? I’ve finally caught you!’
 
You should definitely make it a point to shop around the wine section for a while. There is a lot of conversational opportunity here, and women love wine. Let the chumps shop for beer, you’re here for the ladies.
 
“Excuse me, do you know if you’re supposed to have white whine with chicken?” And she’ll say, yes. “What about with Cheerios?”
 
Or, “Do you know what the difference is between a Syrah and a Merlot?” She’ll try to explain, but it’s always a very subtle difference. “Oh, I see. So you must be one of those people who stomps grapes in her basement, huh?’
 
Remember this:
You don’t have to dress up in a tuxedo, but for gosh sakes, make sure whatever you’re wearing is appropriate to the situation. For a grocery store, you can even show up in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt, but you better make it all look stylish
and neat. Wear a decent pair of shoes (not your ratty Converse hi-tops) and a belt. Make sure your shirt isn’t wrinkled, and your jeans don’t look like they’ve been chewed up in the gears of your mountain bike.
 
Also, don’t ever go to the grocery store with a wingman. You’ll look gay. So, get ready to buck your life at the grocery store ! Field reports coming in from my disciples soon….