Let’s face it…

If you want to create attraction in a woman or to a client… you must possess the ability to talk. You can know all the “secret attraction building techniques” in the world… but if you can’t carry a conversation…
YOU GET NO WHERE….

Right now I want to concentrate on the exact ways you’re killing your conversations… probably without realizing it.

Mistake #1: Breaking the 90/10 Rule When Starting a Conversation

Have you ever noticed that most conversations don’t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in?

This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up – making yourself ready to start that conversation.

A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.” The problem most guys face is that don’t ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.” Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly. And because of this the opposite effect happens… and their conversations just “stall out.”

Well you have to carry the conversation. Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by providing 90, or even sometimes 100, percent of all the content until they get warmed up a little bit.

How do you do that?

Keep talking!

Well the rule is very simple: Just keep talking.

By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.”

In future lessons I’m going to show you exactly what tools you need to be able to do this… but for now, just know you HAVE be prepared to talk 90% of the time for the first 5-10 minutes of your conversations….

Mistake #2: Not Recognizing the Signals a Woman is Giving Them

You have to recognize the signals that women are giving to you so you know whether you have got the right kind of emotional intensity – the right energy – and whether the topics you are talking about are actually even appropriate for this point in the conversation.

How do you do that?

Well, you use your senses. Your eyes and your ears are your best friends. You have got to watch people’s reactions and learn to be able to read them.

You have a good sense of when you are boring her, when she is excited and how she is reacting to you. You just have to make sure you pay attention.

The rule of thumb is when you first start a conversation with someone or with a group of people you want to have a little bit more energy than that group had before you came in.

If you get to recognize where she is at in terms of her energy level, her enthusiasm, her excitement, how her neurology is wired up and lit up, and you can pitch your own energy level to be just slightly above that, you will be sure to be a success wherever you go because you will not be too much and you will not be too little.

Mistake #3: Not Assuming Rapport Right From the Beginning

For the longest time I could never understand why it took so long for me to develop rapport with women… while my friends seem to jump right into it…And then it hit me…

I was waiting for rapport to happen naturally… they were assuming it.

When you are talking to a woman, even if it’s your first time talking to her…talk to her in the same laid back way you would talk to an old friend.

Most guys do the complete opposite… they talk to a woman in a “stiff, formal” way reserved for strangers…. And this just makes it more apparent that you are a STRANGER. And this puts her guard up. And this creates that uncomfortable “awkwardness” that is devastating to a conversation.

By jumping right into rapport you create a more natural feeling conversation and give her the feeling of “knowing you forever.”

Mistake #4: Going into “Interview Mode”

I know you’ve experienced it… talking to a woman, and feeling like you’re
on a job interview. This is the dreaded “interview mode.”
This happens when you don’t know what to talk about so to keep the conversation going you ask questions like:

What do you do for a living?
What do you do for fun?
Where did you grow up?
What kind of music do you like?

It’s not the questions themselves that kill you… the rapid firing of question after question… and the steady stream of fact based answers that destroy any sort of “chemistry.”

A conversation is supposed to fun vibing back and forth… it’s not supposed to feel like a job interview.

Mistake #5: Letting her “Lead” the Conversation

Most guys are so unsure of themselves when talking to a woman that they look for the woman to give them “approval” or “permission” before they take any lead in the conversation.

And this is DEAD wrong.

The minute a woman realizes you’re looking to her to lead the conversation…her attraction instantly disappears.
Most guys let the woman lead the conversation because they are scared of “pissing her off” or choosing the wrong topic…

But here is the thing…

Women will follow whatever tone you set for the conversation. If you set a fun, flirty vibe… she will follow. And even if she isn’t interested in the topic you’ve chose to discuss… she’ll still respect you a lot more for taking the initiative.

The Biggest Mistake:

Do you want to know what the biggest mistake men make in regards to
their conversations with women?

Not getting help.

Would you believe that 10 years ago it was nearly impossible to find this sort of information on improving your conversations with women? This meant that guys were forced to either struggle forever, or figure it out on their own.

However, you have no excuse… as there is help available. Help that can change your “game” almost overnight. Go to http://secret.buckmylife.com

Even though it has been close to five years since I last struggled with this…I still know the pain you feel… I had felt it for more than two thirds of my life. And I don’t wish that pain on anyone.

Now, I know that anytime, anywhere I can go out and talk to women/clients and create attraction and buck my life!

The ending can be read at http://www.forum.buckmylife.com/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=12&p=30#p30

Have you ever spoken and wished that you could immediately take the words back…or that you could crawl into a hole?
Here are the Testimonials of a few people who did….

FIRST TESTIMONY:
I walked into a hair salon with my husband and three kids in tow and asked loudly,
‘How much do you charge for a shampoo and a blow job?’
I turned around and walked back out and never went back
My husband didn’t say a word…he knew better.

SECOND TESTIMONY:
I was at the golf store comparing different kinds of golf balls. I was unhappy with the women’s type I had been using.
After browsing for several minutes, I was approached by one of the good-looking gentlemen who works at the store.
He asked if he could help me. Without thinking, I looked at him and said, ‘I think I like playing with men’s balls .

THIRD TESTIMONY:
My sister and I were at the mall and passed by a store that sold a variety of candy and nuts.
As we were looking at the display case, the boy behind the counter asked if we needed any help.
I replied, ‘No, I’m just looking at your nuts.’
My sister started to laugh hysterically.
The boy grinned, and I turned beet-red and walked away.
To this day, my sister has never let me forget.

FOURTH TESTIMONY :
While in line at the bank one afternoon, my toddler decided to release some pent-up energy and ran amok.
I was finally able to grab hold of her after receiving looks of disgust and annoyance from other patrons.
I told her that if she did not start behaving ‘right now’ she would be punished.

To my horror, she looked me in the eye and said in a voice just as threatening,
‘If you don’t let me go right now, I will tell Grandma that I saw you kissing Daddy’s pee-pee last night!’
The silence was deafening after this enlightening exchange. Even the tellers stopped what they were doing.

I mustered up the last of my dignity and walked out of the bank with my daughter in tow.
The last thing I heard when the door closed behind me, were screams of laughter.

FIFTH TESTIMONY:
Have you ever asked your child a question too many times?
My three-year-old son had a lot of problems with potty training and I was on him constantly.
One day we stopped at Taco Bell for a quick lunch, in between errands. It was very busy, with a full dining room.

While enjoying my taco, I smelled something funny, so of course I checked my seven-month-old daughter, she was clean.
The realized that Danny had not asked to go potty in a while.

I asked him if he needed to go and he said ‘No’ .

I kept thinking
‘Oh Lord, that child has had an accident, and I don’t have any clothes with me.’
Then I said, ‘Danny, are you SURE you didn’t have an accident?’

‘No,’ he replied.
I just KNEW that he must have had an accident, because the smell was getting worse.

Soooooo, I asked one more time, ‘Danny did you have an accident ?This time he jumped up, yanked down his pants, bent over, spread his cheeks and yelled
‘SEE MOM, IT’S JUST FARTS!!’

While 30 people nearly choked to death on their tacos laughing, he calmly pulled up his pants and sat down.
An old couple made me feel better, thanking me for the best laugh they’d ever had!

LAST BUT NOT LEAST TESTIMONY:
This had most of the state of Michigan laughing for 2 days and a very embarrassed female news anchor who will, in the future, likely think before she speaks.

What happens when you predict snow but don’t get any!!??

We had a female news anchor that, the day after it was supposed to have snowed and didn’t, turned to the weatherman and asked:
‘So Bob, where’s that 8 inches you promised me last night?’

2. Don’t reply with overly rehearsed answer’s.

3. Shit test: If she asks“Were did u get that silly hair” u say “Same place u got those funny looking shoes.”

4. Never wait for her. If she says ’I’m going to the bathroom wait here” you say “I’m goin to the Bar to grab a drink”

5. Do not show positive body language too early.

6. Don’t fidget (Remember body language is 60% of communication)

7. Don’t supplicate (So don’t be buying drinks except if in rapport)

8. Do not chase for the ‘kill’ too early.

9. Do not brag unnecessarily.

10. Do not lean in your body towards her.

Last night, I was chilling out at a club when I noticed a lady standing alone near where my table was. She was a hot blonde with sultry lips and a body that looked like she did yoga very often.

I went over and said, ”You look like a lady with a lot of class…’

Just when she faced me and was about say something, I took her right hand with my left hand, put her left hand on myright shoulder and my right arm around her waist.

‘Ok, teach me to waltz.’ I said

Shes went ‘what…*laughs* I cant waltz’

‘ Ok… I’ll teach you what I know, gotta warn you I damn good though… ready?’ I said

She just smiled.

I started issuing her with instructions like… left, back, right, forward… but instead of letting her follow these steps I followed them, so when she heard left shes going to step left, but I also stepped left (which is her right… basically I followed my own instructions)… eventually when I said forward she’ll step forward and so did I.
I was basically in her face,I took my left hand and placed her right hand over my other shoulder so she had both arms around my neck.

I leant in and that was it. K close. Buck my life!

Read the ending at http://www.forum.buckmylife.com/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=14&p=31#p31

‘ Are you jealous?’ I asked.

‘Well…’ Avril stuttered.
I just picked her up on the spot and kissed her.

‘ You improved from just now!’ I teased her.

By now, I knew both girls had the hots for me and if I played me cards right, I could be in for my very first threesome.

As I did not have a place to stay for the night, Avril suggested I stay over at her house and Ziyi also volunteered to follow us back!

On the way back, Ziyi was driving and me and Avril were at the back seat. There was so much going on as my hands were covertly exploring different parts of Avril in the dark. I had to keep it covert as girls were liable to become jealous. Ziyi just seemed intent on concentrating on driving.

After the part that we reached Avril’s house, I cannot post here as the details are too explicit. However, I have given an account of that exclusively in our forum so if you register with us and read the forum post on Boston oriental tale: ending, you will get to enjoy my wonderful experience with Avril and Ziyi! Buck my life!

It’s almost certain whatever girl you say this to, she will have not have heard it before. She will not have even had a guy with such massive balls to attempt it. This means you’re in.

The important thing to remember is that you do not crumble when you say the line. Do not crumble. If you do, it shows you’re a weak little wuss and she will definitely laugh at you. If you don’t crumble, then it shows that you are seriously asking her to go home with you and, she will.

Also, when you’re holding, do not be weird! Just simply deliver the world’s best chat up line like you’re talking about the weather, do not crumble or act weirdly like it’s a big deal! You are simply asking her an honest question.

What if she says no? Just say “Ok”. And ask someone else.

How do you know if it’s worked?

You will see one thing in her eyes; it will be pure full on shock! So, if she looks shocked, you pulled it off perfectly, well done!

You need to know that it will never backfire as long as you don’t crumble or act weird, because it’s only a question! Remember you are not persuading her to sleep with you, you just asked her a question. YOU ONLY ASK, NO PERSUADING.

To read about what happened after I made out with her on the spot, read the forum thread with the same title.
Buck my life!

After some more playful banter, Avril got up to use the toilet, and I’m left there with Ziyi.
There’s no such thing as good touching or bad touching in my eyes. All non-sleazy physical contact is good, as long as the woman accepts it. The way I like to break down the initial barriers with chicks physically is a little like the way you use italics in a sentence for emphasis.

This is a bit random, but it’s the cheapest, most inoffensive kinesthetic contact. Use touch to emphasise your words, in exactly the same way that you use italics in a sentence. Hold the touch for the duration of the emphasis – the italics – then take your hand back. Hold their eyes the whole time.
But their accepting your tactile nature as totally normal is a double edged sword. For many guys, getting touchy with a chick is a sign you’re coming on to them, and so it acts like a statement of interest. I can get incredibly tactile with a woman, and she still won’t really know if I like her sexually, which can be a bit of a fucker, especially if I assume I’m being so obvious it’s silly.

This was exactly what happened here.

“You’re very tactile” said Ziyi.

“Really?” I asked, innocently.

“Yeah, it’s fine, it’s just that when a guy touches me as much as you do it usually means that they’re hitting on me.” Ziyi said.

“Oh.” I say. There is a pause. I tried not to break out in laughter.

“I…” She splutters “I mean… are you? Are you hitting on me?”

There are a number of different ways in which you can answer that question in a bad way, and there are a number of different ways you can answer it in a good way. Sure, you could go cocky, and turn it round on her. Or if you were so wont, you could play hard to get.

Buck my life!

(To be continued…..)